Long Distance Dating Can Be Socially Perilous
Although I run my own free dating sites, I still maintain my integrity and honesty and will bring to light today some of the problems with dating but more specifically long distance dating that are the product of dating site - it’s perilous - much more especially when it comes to long-distance dating from a relationship that was built on a dating site.
The social problems with dating sites in general
The one important aspect of dating that we have to consider, which is outside of dating sites is natural chemistry and synchronicity. Natural chemistry and synchronicity revolve around the supposition that the founding of relationships, (the ones outside our family connections) are random occurrences that aren’t pushed or contrived and therefore have more meaning, less deceitful and less contrived. Let me give you an example.
How many men and woman have we encountered who have said they met the love of their life when they were the least expecting it or while they weren’t even “looking for a relationship”? Quite a few. How many of you men out there can safely say they rarely find love when they go out looking for it? Many men go out weekend after weekend, frequenting clubs and pubs all to no avail, no lover, no partner, maybe sex but what’s sex in the end? Nothingness.
Online Dating Is The Same As Pushing It
Online dating is exactly the same. It’s almost akin to arranged marriages but in this case our parents aren’t the ones making the ‘partner/wife/husband” decision for us - we’re doing the decision making ourselves - looking through a huge menu picking and choosing, pushing and pulling, hoping and wishing, trying to find a lover. How lucky do you think it is to find love? Join a dating site and you’ll see it isn’t that easy. It does take time and luck.
Meeting a person in real life has so many dynamics intertwined into the moment. Scents, the sounds of voices, the way the person talks, their personality. All these things make or break the moment and there’s no guessing, no one gets hurt, no one gets lied to but all this isn’t the point. The main point of this article is to convey why long distance dating can be socially perilous so here goes.
Long distance dating spawned from dating site can be socially perilous
Remember a few sentences back when I was talking about the differences between the dynamics of meeting from a dating site verses meeting randomly in a natural social situation? Well let’s multiply the problem with meeting from a dating site by at least 5 when it comes to looking for love in a city that is far away from us.
Long distance dating check list
Are you desperate? You do now that desperate people have zero luck in dating, we all know that and I need to explain. So are you telling me you can’t find a person in your own city? Why not? That is a good question and I would suppose the answer again, is because the person is desperate.
Do you really believe you need to drive 60 kilometers to find a partner? Really?
My take on long distance dating?
From the hop, pushing it, seeking it, looking for it desperately on a dating site is one thing but finding what you claim is the ‘love of your life’, who lives over 80 kilometers from your home - your city is a bad move and perilous to your social life. How? Aside from the myriad of changes you’ll have to make to your living arrangements, all the friend and family ties you’ve built in your hometown will be torn or ripped apart - you’re or your partner’s.
Stay local, relax and eventually you’ll find her and you’ll be more than delighted when once your work day is over you don’t have to drive to Albuquerque to see her, you can just drive home and know she can be there in only a few minutes.
